Sex is not always pleasurable, sometime one of both mates could have pain during sex. While sometime the cause of the pain during sex is obvious. Other time its could be caused by other factors. When face with such a situation its always good to find out the cause and seek remedies. Below is a question by a man of why his girlfriend is always in pain during sex.
Hi, sex and pain should not be in the same sentence. Yet, it’s estimated that 60% of all women experience pain during sex now and then. Records of pain during sex go as far back as ancient Egypt. In some cultures its even grounds for divorce. Not that I am advocating you dump your girlfriend. I commend you for seeking to help her.
There many causes for pain during sex, they could be physical or emotional. The pain could also emanate from different sources. Such as on the vulva, inside the vagina, lower back, pelvic region, the uterus as well as the bladder.
Pain on the vulva could be as a result of sensitivity caused by use of soaps and over the counter vaginal sprays. Scars, cysts or infections could be other causes. Vaginal pain could be due to dryness, infections and Vaginismus.
Vaginismus is an involuntarily tenses vaginal muscles. Its a psychological or emotional issue that cause great fear of pain. , Contracting an STD, getting pregnant or even the guilt associated with illicit sex. It could also be as a result of previous trauma. In extreme case can render penetration impossible.
Deep pain could also be as a result of other medical conditions in nearby tissues and organs. Such as fibroids and Endometriosis.
Painful sex could also be as a result of external stress and men jumping the gun. Modern lifestyle is full of stress especially work related issues. Thus, after long days, a woman might be too stress leading to tension and pain. Especially where there is lack of sufficient foreplay and subsequently arousal and lubrication.
In your girlfriend’s case it seems like she is not adequately lubricated. Thus the reason why there is no pain during her period; the discharge acts as lubrication. My advice would be to spend more time on foreplay.
The average woman needs about 20 minutes of foreplay. I know most men are alarmed at the suggestion of this time frame. Because when most men get erect, they want it there and then. You could incorporating games and play could make long foreplay seen like a few minutes. Massage is one of the best turn-on for women; it for your own good too. As you enjoy the scenery it helps you last longer as the initial psych slows down. Invest in good massage oil so you don’t get tired quickly.
You could also use a lubricant for the ‘quickie’ days or when she is extra dry. Every lady goes through a dry moment now and then.
Finally. Please consult a qualified gynecologist to rule out any underling medical issues.
As far as sex during menstruation goes, there is nothing wrong with it from a medical or enjoyment point of view. As long as the both of you are okay with the mess and everything that comes with it. But, please note that your girlfriend can still get pregnant and if one of you has a STD/STI they could infect the other.
In fact the risks are greater during menstruation due to the presence blood. So please take precautions and protect each other.