Virgin couple, where do we start
Its rare to find a virgin man/woman after the age of 25. A virgin couple is close to a miracle. This is the ideal situation to start a marriage; one with no sexual baggage or weird habits. The couple then have a clean slate to start on a journey of discovery and adventure.
Unfortunately, society looks down on virgins. They are considered as not being ‘in the know’; nerds. Mature virgins are made fun of all the time, there is even a movies on a 40 years virgin man.
Contrary to popular brief that one should get ‘enough’ sexual experience before marriage, the opposite is the ideal situation. Let me explain, a virgin couple have the best shot of attaining sexual bliss and balance. This is so because they are not tainted or exposed to other people sexual, thus no baggage from the past. The first sexual experience, especially if its good shapes or view of sex and well as our desires. This is when men who are obsessed with body parts such as ‘boobs’ and women who swear by a particular size or move/position emerge. Only later to get marriage to the perfect man/woman other than in the bedroom.
Like I said above sometimes on rear occasion, a virgin couple come together. Here is a question by a man in this situation.
Dear Aunty, My name is Jack, a 27 year old man. I have a fiance. We are a virgin couple. My dilemma is where do I start? How can I, ensure sexual success on the wedding night and for the rest of our lives? Jack.
Dear Jack, congratulations to both of you. I often come across engaged women who are still virgins unlike men. Believe me I know from the talks I give at bridal showers that the wedding night is a huge deal to a bride, for your fiance it’s the night she has been saving herself for. Your concerns are understandable, as society expects the man in this situation to take charge – be the man and guide the blushing bride to sexual ecstasy they say.
Consider skipping the wedding night
A wedding is stressing, anxiety packed, exhausting and It’s likely; you will be getting to bed way pass mid-night – evening party and all. Imagine her horror if you actually sleep on the job and mess-up the memorable day. So for that fact, I would urge you to consider delaying sex until morning (but talk to her about it). On your wedding night, undress each other, take a bath together, oil every inch of her body and let her return the favor. Thereafter cuddle and hold each other tight, kiss and talk. This would be the perfect time to find out if she is relaxed enough for sex or would rather wait until morning when well rested. Should it happen then, well and good. Otherwise the morning will be just as good if not better.
In the morning
The next morning you have my permission to wake-up on top of her, I am sure she will be longing for it as much as you. Word of advice, I wouldn’t be too adventurous if I were you. Normally I don’t advocate for missionary position, but in this case it will be the best option. Remember she has to shed all fear and anxiety to enjoy sex and possibly archive orgasm. Don’t be in a hurry; start with activities that are likely to relax her for example an erotic massage. Remember the average woman needs about 25 minutes of foreplay to get fully aroused.
How to do it
Try to be as gentle as possible. You could start by using you Mr. Victor to massage the outer lips and and clitoris, then slowly make your way to the inner lips. Finally, do a shallow penetrate and instead of thrusting in and out, start with a circular motion. Increasing and gradually going deeper. Should she express pain, retract a bit to the position that was not painful and spend a little time there, then go deeper. Repeat a this until you are able go go all the way in. Then you can now thrust, thumb and grind. Please remember all her pleasure points are with two and a half inches in so thumbing and grinding are better that thrusting.
What could go wrong
Please remember, things could go wrong. For example you might have a case of pre-mature ejaculation. Some men can’t help it but ejaculate as soon as they enter or even before. This is quite common with virgins and there is nothing to be ashamed of. How you handle it is important. Don’t get mad with yourself and start cursing. Neither should you start apologizing profusely. Rather, blame it on her beauty and the breath taking site. Give yourself time to recoup and believe me, it will only get better moving forward.
Too painful for her
Please bear in mind that her hymen could still be intact and could be very painful to break. Be prepare to have a number of aborted attempts before it gets better. Also many women today don’t bleed then they break their virginity. This is due to physical activities that stretch the hymen when they are younger. So please don’t be one of those men who feel played because there was no blood.