Other women who have lost their unborn babies too sharing
Since publishing my story on the loss of my baby Ceaser, I have received an overwhelming flow of get well messages and words of encouragement. I thank the almighty God for all the good people who care; I am truly grateful to all.
Among the messages; I now realize that there are many women out there who have suffered the same fate and even worse. Some carried the babies the full nine months only to have stillbirths, others almost lost their lives.
According to my research, black women are three times more likely to have fibroids as compared to other races. They can be genetically passed on (my mother had them), changes of getting them increase with age (30s and 40s), obesity and a diet high in red meat could be other factors.
Fibroids are more prevalent now because women are having babies later in their lives and also less children as compared to our mother’s generations. Pregnancies in early to mid 20s help contain or the fetus growth squeezes the fibroids and they bleed out which was the case with our mothers and by the time they start growing again; the next baby was already under way. Then, naturally, fibroids stop growing on the onset of menopause because their growth is as a result of hormones. Which brings me to the next point, certain contraceptive accelerate fibroid growth.
Now I am in no way advocating for early unplanned pregnancies, nor am I urging women to stop contraceptives. All I am saying is every woman should know the facts, get checked for fibroids and if found plan with your doctor on how best to tackle them.
Here are stories of women who share their experiences with me – enjoy
Sorry for the loss. I share in your pain I went through the same in May I was 2 months pregnant at 39 years & was on top of the world for finally getting a man. I have been HIV positive from 24 years so I had given up on children & being a mum though deep down my heart I always cried to God. Getting a man was my other big issue, so when I tried one shot & scored I was happy but at only 1 a month.
I noticed a swelling on the left side went to the Doctor and he told me it may be fibroids I was really shocked because I never imagined I have them because never had any symptoms. 2 months bulge was big but was assured it may not interfere. End of May week 6 at night. I had a discharge after checking google saw it was normal dark brown discharge. Come the next day after work. I got a sharp pain & blood. Thought its minor within no time at 8 pm I was in so much pain all had a miscarriage at home & alone. I have been too down went for mastectomy in August now recovering to try start all over again. The man isn’t even bothered I have been crying; don’t know where to look for a donor again.
Your not alone in this pain many ladies are and be grateful you have a shoulder to lean on. You will pull through with them if I have stopped getting jealous by seeing pregnant women and sure you will too sweets. Get well quick. Hugs SS
Be encouraged God has not forgotten you, I have had 5 miscarriages & I know how painful they can be & take a toll on someone, mine happened on the 4th of July at 24 weeks I had named him Nathaniel but God who is full of Grace & mercy will see you through this difficult time.
I know how you feel, but God has a reason, I under went the same thing but GOD is great he gave me strength after 6 years, the profile picture I have she is a testimony dear. I wont lie to you it hurts but praying more and talking to friends your dear husband and your children will heal the wound very first. Am praying for you and just know you are a great mum My advice dear,mourn for the situation until you cant mourn again, I wish you knew how blessed you are,quick recovery.
Oh my Getrude,
I’ve just read your article and I’m all soaked up in tears because this was me in 2011. The very exact description and just to add I had a transfusion because I lost so much blood…love from friends and family will help you through.
Thank God you are doing well.
Quick recovery Getrude.