Sexual confidence and how attain it
I can always tell who has sexual confidence. And by extension has a great Mombasa Raha life. From how they carry themselves and interact with other people. They are bright, happy and well adjusted social beings. On the other hand people who lack sexual confidence are always edgy. They hardly ever have any light moments.
Women without sexual confidence
Fear of rejection and insecurity makes women hold back and only concentrate on pleasing their men. Such women lack sexual confidence and approach sex like it’s a chore. Thus, when the man asks for it she obliges even when not in the mood. With time they despise sex more than washing dishes. It’s these women who I have the hardest time convincing them to go the extra mile in pleasing their men. ‘What about us?’ they ask.
Men who lack sexual confidence
As for men who lack sexual confidence, they are more likely to suffer from premature ejaculation. Due to performance anxiety. To mask this they have unusual request during sex. Stuff like asking the woman to call their name during sex. They keep asking questions whose answers seek to affirm them. Such men would expect their women to cry out or do something during sex to show they are rocking the woman.
Lack of sexual confidence and insecurities are caused by fears of feeling inadequate in something. Like for example men would feel they are not well endowed. Can’t go as many ‘rounds’ as they prefer. Even lack of money and status can cause a man less sexual confidence.
Women who feel they are not tight enough or smell good. Have the right size of breasts, bum and other physical features. Would have less sexual confidence. Most of the time these feelings are just fears. Not the actual things or factors that make sex substandard and less enjoyable. Nevertheless, many people have these worries whether real or imagined. So what is one to do?
Things one could do to improve sexual confidence
The individual must address the issues and do something about it that will bring about confidence. Here I would strongly advice that before one embarks on the journey to find solutions one must do their research and find out what is possible and what is not. What is dangerous and what is safe, what is standard and what is exaggerated on our social circles.
Sexual confidence for men
Take Mr. Victor for example; unless one has surgery to enlarge it, (which in most case has less than satisfactory results) there is no way of doing it. Pulling or milking it as well as tying weights to pull it, is just a waste of time that might make it worse by possibly injuring it.
The fact is any Mr. Victor longer than two and half inch when erect is capable of bringing a woman to an orgasm. Most men who seek to enlarge are between four and six inches long, they imagine that if only they could enlarge to eight to ten inches then women would be lining up at their door steps. Instead on working with what they have they obsess on what they don’t have. Another issue is of sexual stamina and firmness of the erection which are associated with diet and exercises which include Kegel exercise for men.
Young men in their early 20s are taking Viagra and other harmful pills in the name of enhancing performance and going many rounds which makes them dependant on these products and later develop tolerance/resistance which means nothing else will ever give them erections, leading to a impotence and other complications.
Sexual confidence for women
Women on the other hand might insert rocks into Miss Victoria; wash with coke soda or salt and vinegar all in the name of tightening, instead of doing Kegel exercise or investing in vaginal gyms to tone and tighten.
Miss Victoria hygiene
Others spray all sorts of perfumes or use perfumed soaps and douche their Miss Victorias. This resulting in infections leading to even more foul smell as the harsh chemicals alter the Ph balance of Miss Victoria. Miss Victoria is self cleaning so nothing other than Mr. Victor should be inserted, also it should be clean with vaginal wash that is Ph balanced or just plain cold water.
Acne, pimples and spots
For women and some men other things like pimples and dark marks might make them loose their confidence. Again these are things one can do something about like investing in the turmeric soap that stops pimples as they pop out, remove spots left by pimples from before while making the face smooth and give it a glow. There are also products for lightening dark underarms and inner thighs like the “Mukorogo” at the Tetezzo shop. The point here is do something about the things you can change but make sure it’s safe.
Body parts such as legs, the dashboard and even supporting documents can also make people lose their confidence and with it their sex appeal. Unfortunately, there isn’t much one can do to change these parts, however with the right choice of dressing; the right accessories one can get a better impression. But, the most important is the state of mind that brings about the most confidence.
In my family we have ‘Rabai’ (my tribe) legs which had been my source of insecurity for a while until my sister whom I thought had it worse in terms of ‘Rabai’ legs, rocked in shorts one day for an important function. To my amazement she was really glowing and confident, so I asked her if she still remembered our ‘Rabai’ legs in reference to the shorts. Her answer was mind-blowing and life changing; this is what she said to me, “you keep waiting for your legs to change, while I rock it and let’s see if the boys mind”. For sure that day she commanded the attention of all.
Confidence is 50% of what you have and 50% of what you think you have.