Ladies; how to rock him on a sex retreat
Sex retreat, could be an answer to dull day-in-day-out sex. Women the world over crave for quality lovemaking as opposed to the frequent dosages of quickies. This makes sex boring and mundane to the woman. The dilemma is how to bring about changes, especially given men’s contentment with the quickies.
The sex retreat
Imagine this scenario; on your fifth wedding anniversary he decides to take you to Naivasha (a lake resort town). You get all fired up thinking ‘finally, great action’. As you reminisce the multiple ‘O’ years back that left you breathless and dizzy but in utter bliss. On the way the mood is great with lots of touchy, touchy. You reach the hotel and no sooner you enter the room. Boxers and panties are flying all over, you hardly reach the bed and it’s all over.
To make matters worse, he needs at least a day or so to recharge for more action. When he does it’s still a sprint not a marathon. There goes the weekend because when Africans go to a resort. They don’t go to see fish eagles neither the hippos nor bird watching – it’s a sex holiday!
The issue is how to slow him down, have fun and prolong lovemaking. There are many options out there, but today let’s look at the massage option. Massage is one of those misunderstood things in our society. It’s associated with both good and bad but mostly the ungodly acts. When it’s for the good, massage is used to relax a tired person. Hard deep tissue massage requiring lots of strength and effort. Thus when one thinks of massage, they think about hard work. Yet it doesn’t have to take all your strength to give a sensual-turn-him-on. Massage and it is one of the most erotic things for lovemaking. So how does one give such a massage?
What is required?
- Massage oil or hot wax from melting candles. Not baby oil or Vaseline, oil that glides so you don’t get tired. The scent should be something mild. Preferable a fruity scents like Vanilla and apple. Can you imagine candles that melt into massage oil? Which doesn’t burn. You pour warm oil all over him to his sheer joy.
- Mood setting; this involved soft music in the background. Adequate lighting. Not too bright, but not too dark that you can’t see him.
- Sexy outfit: remember you are going to play sex so you must look the role. Something sexy, skimpy and lacey would do.
- Great, playful but with a firm attitude; you must play boss and make him wait.
- You both need to shower before the massage.
How to do it;
- Instructing him to sleep on his back and apply the oil generously then start with a light, slow strokes using the palms of your hands. Resist using too much force otherwise you will soon get tired; make it as light but not a feather touch. Ensure you have as much physical contact as possible, for instance, instead of standing next to the bed, sit on him while you massage.
Head, Neck and Shoulder:
- You could start on the head, especially the temple, then make your way to the ears, here rub softly in circular motions and insert your index fingers in the ear canal rubbing in and out; don’t forget the back of the ears. If this over excites him move over to the back of the head and neck, rub using long strokes from the neck to the shoulders. Stay here for between five and ten minutes as this is where most men carry their stress.
- The back, butt and legs: The back, especially the lower back to relax him, but the rib cage is definitely a big turn on for most men. Make a fist and use the sharp edges of the fingers to massage the ribs to his pleasure. The butt might not be as pleasurable for men as it is for women so depending on your man you might want to quickly gloss over this area and move on to the legs. The legs are also points that get tired, so you might want to press down using your palms and add more pressure. While massaging the thighs you might want to be a little naughty and tag the testicles lightly.
Face, chest, stomach:
- Turn him to lie on his back. Get on top of him and stride him like a horse. Massage this face lightly to turn attention from Mombasa Raha as he will expect it as soon as you sit on him. Talk to him and even lie on his chest for a minute. Then start rubbing the chest and tummy with the oil, and then rub lightly.
- Ensure you also apply the oil on yourself too, especially your whole front. Then turn and let him admire your butt; a hand job here would be most welcome (see my DVD on hand jobs). Once he is fully erect, push Mr. Victor to lie on his tummy, then lie on him facing him and start gliding up and down rubbing Mr. Victor. Make sure you rub your pleasure knob with Mr. Victor until you achieve the big ‘O’.
After the big ‘O’ now you can revert to him being in control. I would proceed to woman-on-top and get even more. The point here is for all to enjoy and have satisfactory sex, also as a wife you rock your husband while giving him back his pride as being a good lover. You see men always take the honors when sex is great even when it’s the woman, but we know better.