My wife bought me a sex manual as a birthday present. I thought we had a great sex life so this act has me confused. Do you think she finds me inadequate?
Hi my good man. First let me commend you for seeking advice and not jumping into conclusions. Many men in your position – a sex manual from the wife – would be breathing fire full of accusations. You reaction is normal; given the fact that in your own words your sex life is great. The bigger issue here is communication. The two of you need to communicate better, to avoid these awkward situations.
Having said that, I don’t think a sex manual means, she is unhappy with your services. As a fact it’s a show of maturity, openness and a vote of confidence in you. She is comfortable with you; otherwise she would have not bought the sex manual. You would be complaining that she is cold in bed. That she often comes up with excuses of headache and when she agrees it those one of – hurry and cover me when you finish.
Wives protest at bad service by snapping and with holding back service to their husbands. They are aware of how sensitive the issue of sexual performance is. Thus, they hardly complain aloud. Unless in anger. When they do. Husbands are usually shocked to learn that their bedroom skills are below average. This is where the ego is bruise and unfortunately some men never recover.
Unlike most men, women like improving things that they love. Especially where in marriage and family. That why women invest more in marriages, families and friendships. This is why, my conclusion is; she wants to spice up your sex life and so should you too. Sure with age the man’s sex drive declines while the woman’s pick up. If you were giving her a night cap and a morning glory but now you can only manage a night cap, they you need to change tack. The night cap now needs to be good enough for her to forget about the morning glory. You can no longer afford a ‘quickie’ and expect to get away with it every time.
How you handle this issue is important not only to your sex life but also your marriage, as a whole. Be positive in your approach; take it as a good challenge. Many men wish their wives were as proactive in these matters. So don’t read too much in it. Instead, thank God she has bought the book and not ventured else where.
Read the sex manual out aloud to her it could be great for foreplay. Who knows what will be coming your way in future, you are such a lucky man!
You can return the favor by getting her a copy of my handjob dvd ;